Quit seeking enlightenment
I have been reading self help books and attending various “spiritual growth” events and workshops for many, many years. I have devoured the writings of Rhonda Byrne, Eckhart Tolle, Don Miguel Ruiz, Alan Watts, Deepak Chopra, Ernest Holmes plus many books on Buddhism and Christianity.
Last night, in a Nyquil induced daze, it occurred to me that all these attempts to find enlightenment (ie. inner peace, happiness, self confidence, prosperity, etc) are actually impeding me from finding enlightenment!
The recent tragic deaths of James Ray’s followers helped me realize that I don’t need a guru who claims to know the $ecret to everything. The answers were always there, I just had to quit trying so hard to find them.
When we seek enlightenment, inner peace, happiness, etc. it will always elude us because the thing we seek does not exist in and of itself. It is nothing more than an abstract concept in our mind. The more we are attached to finding that elusive state,the less likely it becomes available to us. The cycle of searching goes on an on, like a dog chasing his tail.
For those seeking money and fame.. quit seeking money and fame. Find what you like to do and do it with passion. For those seeking enlightenment…quit seeking enlightenment. Live your life with kindness, authenticity and awareness.
Meditate Now!
According to researchers, meditation can increase your brain matter, enhance your ability to empathize, and reduce sensitivity to pain.
Using MRI scans, researchers at UCLA examined the brains of long term meditates and noticed that areas of the brain for regulating emotions were larger than non meditates. In another study, researchers found that people who meditate on compassion and kindness actually alter their brain pathways and increase their ability to empathize and express kindness toward others. Furthermore, researchers in Canada found that Zen meditates were able to reduce their sensitivity to pain by 18% compared to non mediates.
Most of the studies involved long term meditates but I think it is possible to reap some of these benefits with a daily practice of meditation even if you start today.
I started a daily meditation practice several years ago after attending classes at the Vajradhara Buddhist Center in Charlotte. I usually aim for 20 minutes a day and over time I find that I am much calmer and less likely to lash out in a fit of anger.
Living in the present: to the extreme
Since I started reading Eckhart Tolle’s “The Power of Now”, I am trying to become fully present in my daily activities. According to Tolle, by living in the present moment we can overcome the cause of many of our sufferings and eventually find inner peace…
Let’s face it, I eat way too fast and wolf down my dinner before everyone else. I am often told I need to slow down but I usually brush it aside. However, this really is a sign that I am having problems living in the present. Heck.. many times I can’t even tell you what I ate because I was thinking about a past or future event instead of being fully present with my meal…
…But, can anyone really live in the present all the time and function in society. After reading “The Power of Now”, I found a video about a brain damaged man who is forced to live in the present. The first clip below is from a TV documentary and features Clive Wearing , a man who only has 10-30 seconds of memory-living in the present to the extreme! I thought it was sad and fascinating at the same time…
Conversely, I found a video about a woman who cannot forget the past and remembers everything eventful in her life including the good and mostly the bad. In both cases, there is great suffering and I think finding the middle ground of being present when necessary probably suits me the best. The question is knowing when to be fully present…
Connections by Rebecca A. Nagy
Many times we meet strangers along the way who cause us to pause, to remember who we are, why we are here, and think about where we are going.
Last month, I met a soldier…
I was coming back from speaking at the NSA’s National Convention in San Diego in July and had a stop over in Dallas long enough to grab some lunch. As I wandered down the terminal corridor, trying to decide where I could get the least carb to calorie ratio lunch, I spotted a little café/bar with an empty table and zeroed in.
I ended up sitting next to a marine who was going home on leave to attend his daughter’s wedding. He was in his 40′s, career military, 3rd generation.
As we were talking, all of a sudden he just broke down, tears streaming down his face. I listened for a while as he just poured his heart out about his frustration at what is going on “over there” in the war.
I was shocked at how open he was with me, spewing out on the two subjects we don’t speak of in “polite” conversations – you know, politics and religion.
Paying Attention by Dogo Barry Graham
Some people will do anything to escape the reality of their lives. With some, it’s drugs. With others, it’s identity, whether they identify with a belief or an activity or a relationship. I see the latter a lot – frightened egos trying to turn a relationship into a fortress.
Look at the person you love most, and remember: they are going to die. So are you. No matter how happy you are together, how much you love each other – and how much you identify with the relationship – it is going to end. What then?
Let me respectfully remind you:
Life and death are of supreme importance.
Time swiftly passes and opportunity is lost.
Awaken! Awaken! Take heed;
Do not squander your life.
About the Author:
Dogo Barry Graham is a Zen Buddhist monk, a social activist and a writer, and the Abbot of The Sitting Frog Zen Sangha. He has written articles for national magazines, including Harper’s, Flaunt and Parabola and his poetry has been published in magazines and anthologies. He has taught Zen in jails, homeless shelters and community centers, and has witnessed two executions in Florence, Arizona, each time at the invitation of the prisoner, not the state. In Arizona and Tennessee, he has worked to stop police brutality and gang violence. He sees Zen practice and social activism as being inseparable. You can read more at his blog “The Urban Monk” .
Let It Rain by Dogo Barry Graham
Thinking about an email I received from a friend. After telling me the problems that some people close to us are having, my friend said, “Life is bumpy, isn’t it?”
I replied that there is no reason that life shouldn’t be bumpy. Our suffering is not caused by the fact that life is hard, but by our belief that it should be easy. When we accept life as it is, without comparing it to how we think it ought to be, then there’s no source of suffering.
I have a friend who spent more than ten years in prison. He told me that he was still more free than most of the people he knew outside of prison, because he had decided that he was going to live his life as it was, where it was, while most of his friends on the outside created a prison for themselves by constantly wanting life to be something other than what it is.
This man didn’t like being in prison – he hated it, of course – but he refused to let being incarcerated keep him from being happy. He had to stop attaching to his preferences, his likes and dislikes, and simply be present – and when he was able to do that, he was able to find joy in whatever the day brought.
This is true of all of us. When I consider any of my own suffering, I realize that other people never caused me to suffer, and neither did the circumstances of my life. I caused me to suffer. I did it by wanting people to be different, rather than accepting them as they were. I did it by wanting circumstances and situations to be different. I did it by wanting life to be easy when it wasn’t. And, sometimes, even when life was easier than it might have been, I still suffered because I wanted it to be different – or, as I thought, better. And then I blamed the other person or the circumstances for making me suffer.
Safety in my Snuggie?
If you watch any TV you’ve probably seen the ubiquitous commercials for the Snuggie™- A blanket with sleeves. In the infomercial you see attractive camera-ready men, women, and children blissfully smiling in their new found source of happiness.
Suddenly, conundrums like “how do I answer the phone under a blanket?” are solved with the Snuggie™. Life is perfect inside a Snuggie™- you never get cold and you save electricity to boot. What could be better…
Is this sense of safety an illusion and a distraction from the real problems in my life? A cover from the barrage of negative news? The economy is tanking… get a Snuggie™, my cat just died… get a Snuggie™… I lost my job… get a Snuggie™…my Pedegg™ broke…get a Snuggie™.
Where does safety really reside?
Can we truly be happy cocooned in our Snuggie™ or should we accept the feelings of fear and inadequacy that arise in our lives by acknowledging them instead of pretending they don’t exist.
Awakening the Dreamer
A man trampled to death by a frenzied herd of WalMart shoppers!!
We have become MEGA Consumers attacking each other to get the latest flat screen TV.
The consumer mentality that pervades our entire culture is out of control. The Joneses can’t keep up with Joneses anymore. When will we get off the BUY NOW treadmill?
Does anything we purchase really bring us any lasting happiness or inner peace?
I recently attended an event called “Awakening the Dreamer” . The symposium was created by the Pachamama Alliance to bring awareness of our destruction and exploitation of the planet and it’s inhabitants.
From their website: Read the rest of this entry »
Relaxation and Meditation made easy
OK, I’ve had enough of the dire news on the TV, Radio, and Internet lately. The finger pointing and gloomy outlook just create more anxiety and fear.
I try to avoid watching TV, reading the paper and listening to the radio . Even better, I often use meditation CD’s or my mind machine (see earlier posts) to help me escape the constant barrage of bad news.
Now for the good news!
I created my first Meditation and relaxation recording/CD that you can use right now instead of turning on the TV or listening to the radio. Just click the play button below this post.
The 20 minute recording incorporates peaceful music with natural sounds and embedded brainwave entrainment tones. The binaural tones gently guide your brainwaves to a meditative Alpha state which will help reduce anxiety and relax your mind.
Vuvee.com meditation and relaxation cd [20:50m]:
The Time Is Now
Last weekend I escaped to the Tennessee Mountains with a group of friends. We arrived four hours later, and I was surprised to see a beautiful two story pine cabin. The cabin, which was more like a luxury home, had large glass windows and a wooden spiral staircase with woven twigs for railing.
Firmly planted on the porch was a 6 foot hand carved wooden bear (the kind you see for sale off the highway) that we affectionately referred to as “Wesley bear” (also the name of the cabin).
As the night wore on, we put on some scary movies like “Descent” and the dated teen classic “Urban Legends”. It was 3AM and I decided to go to sleep. On my way to the bedroom, I noticed almost everyone was sleeping. The fireplace was glowing softly emitting a little click or pop every now and then. I jumped into the bed landing with a loud thud.. Damn! hard bed.. and fell into a deep effortless sleep….
Suddenly, I felt someone shaking me. I opened my sleep filled eyes and realized it was my partner. At first I did not hear a word, then I realized he was saying “the fireplace is on fire!”. I immediately thought… “yea, that’s what fireplaces are for”. As I rubbed my eyes again in frustration, It dawned on me what my partner was really saying… “Get up now!! The fireplace is on Fire!!!”
